"Close to You" and Other Memes Outing Families as Not-Good-for-You

The award-winner "Close to You" puts it out there that family, even the most well-intentioned, may block not only growth but the basic survival instinct. 

When being part of his family of mother, father and three siblings, as a female, in a small town in Canada now-male-Sam had been frozen into sadness. His father feared finding her dead.

Four years later he has found himself as he transitioned into a male in a large city in Canada where he lives a little life with a roommate. With dread but willingness he returns home for his father's birthday. 

That is a disaster and he leaves during the birthday dinner. 

But before he does he reconnects with the disabled woman (deaf) he once loved back in high school even when he was a female. Later they consummate that love in a brief and temporary encounter.

This Sam has found quiet self-acceptance. He is no activist. 

His family only knows how to provide a ham-handed version of liberal acceptance. Not deep understanding and connection. 

Liberalism, as we well known, has been voted down in the recent election. One-time powerhouse insitutions such as the Democratic Party and large elite progressive law firms ranging from Covington to Paul Weiss have to revisit that ideology.

"Close to You" reinforces the intensifying meme that it may downright healthy to dump family. The New York Times discusses that option, which many from ethnic backgrounds might regard as heresy. Old thinking, which had dominated child protective services, for example, had been a commitment to keep a family together.

In my tarot-reading practice I enounter both sides of the breaking away from family. 



Parents come to me confused by what they call the "epidemic" of adult children shutting the door on even communication. In the tarot that comes up in the Tower card - their whole world seems to be collapsing. 

Meanwhile, those adult children come to me for almost "permission" or a "blessing" that they are doing the right thing. That is symbolized in the Walking Away card or the Eight of Cups. Cups in the tarot represent emotion. You bet, there is a lot of emotion attached to this one.

My message for both is this: There are no absolute right answers. There are only answers which at a certain time seemed to be customized to be the right fit for a particular human being. Most of those decisions are not irreversible. Sam was willing to check out his decision to leave family behind. Along the way he did pick up additional data about who he was and who he is now. 

More otherwise seemingly content human beings will be encountering these kinds of upheavals. Social mores, how to earn a good living, longevity and the "religion" of tech are all triggering massive shifts. There will be the hard work of putting together new kinds of answers. That could bring on plenty of unexpected suffering. 

Jane Genova * Tarot Card Reader * Intuitive Coach * Medium.

Opening Yourself to Relief from Suffering.

Deep Listening and No-Nonsense Direction

For an appointment, please contact janegenova374@gmail.com or text/phone 203-468-8579.

 


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