Retiring & Relocating: Can You Break In Socially?
Almost 40% of you will relocate when you retire. Given longevity, you might then move multiple times , even every five years. As a tarot reader I hear all too often from disappointed retirees that what drives that second or third relocation is not a budget issue. No, it's soul-sickness. You are unable to break in socially. So, I guide clients to explore before the move how resistant a community might be in allowing newcomers "in." By "in," I mean having a shot at close friendships. There is the familiar dynamic: So and so are friendly, polite. But those conversations in the grocery store or at the gym never lead to an invitation to have a drink or a cup of coffee. That's usually because in that community what count are the bonds formed over the years. They begin in grade school. The groups have bulging collective memory banks. How to find out, before you move, the openness of the residents? Chat bots will be straight with you. Describe yourself. For ex...