Can't Earn a Good Living? Maybe Blame Your Happy Childhood
In 2024, at the Academy Awards, Robert Downey Jr. thanked his unhappy childhood when accepting the award for best supporting actor. Pop culture writer Molly Jong-Fast got a bestseller "How to Lose Your Mother" from growing up with self-absorbed problem-drinker Erica Jong as primary caretaker. And Eminem, Gloria Steinem and myself are among those in creative/activist professions who had mentally ill mothers. Mine committed suicide. The research , expert opinion and observations about how a crappy childhood can generate unique professional success are piling up. Those include: No Hallmark/Disney world view, later to be shaken off when reality intrudes. From the get-go, the gestalt is that life is tough and survival is up to us. Problem-solving is embedded early. Mine was to ace high school in order to get a scholarship to an out-of-state college, away from the crazy family. Raw resilience. With instability the norm so is the necessity to continually regroup. We ...