YouandTheTarot

One of the blessings of being a tarot-reader is that we acquire insider access to the human heart and mind. And with Mother's Day coming up it's overdue that I share what I'm observing. Essentially, as expected, there are extreme generational differences in how women reflect on being mothers. Or having opted-out. Boomers tend to just be grateful they and their offspring have made it this far. The memory of exhaustion is all too common. Most caved to the pressure of marrying young and bearing children before investing enough in a career. They realize they paid heavily in terms of sacrificing earning power and where they wound up on the totem pole. Most wound up having to go to work.  For mothers in midlife there tends to be resentment about, in addition to having a family, there was pressure to be all they could be. Not a girlboss? Why not. Meanwhile, there was the brutal reality of their salary or income from their enterprise being necessary to pay the bills. Exhaustion isn...

Former history teacher at Miss Hall's private school Matthew Rutledge has been indicted on three counts of rape. The alleged victims were his students.  From clients still having flashbacks of those kinds of schoolgirl encounters I have been able to identify what kind of young person winds up in that traumatic connection. She's not a loser.  In fact, she has the intellectual push to explore beyond the classroom. The instructor encourages that. Private tutorials are part of the grooming.  But she, like most of us, also needs to "feel special." Not just another student.  In addition, supposedly having an intimate relationship with an authority figure opens a peculiar rite of passage. There's that premature crossing of the line over to adulthood. Let the rest of the classmates be stuck in the seeming arrested development of being controlled in the protected category of being a mere student. How can parents head this off? Obviously, if the daughter gushes a bit too mu...

The joy of acceptance. That's after years of insecurities about belonging, or even deserving to take in oxygen on planet earth. And, that's what I found drives human beings to wind up in cults. The odds are that they don't even know they're being controlled, exploited and with no easy exit - Those represent the essence of cult dynamics.  The extremes are the Charles Manson or Jim Jones kind of hold on people. More common is the cult-like. For example, the splendid institution of Big Law.  The routine work, never mind what it takes to get ahead, is so demanding of time and thought that the only way to remain a member in good standing is to do a total buy-in. Yes, the dynamic is a type of brainwashing that this is such a desirable pursuit. Who wouldn't want to be let in! Dissent can get you shunned. Don't question. Fit in perfectly. Otherwise, the power structure won't assign work. If that comes into play you will suffer extreme mental torment. There's a...

  That's what it is, I realized yesterday, when I went to a small city in Ohio to do tarot readings: an economic pall hovering over the whole community.  Of course, that shaped the tone and content of the actual readings. What was needed was highly customized guidance on coping with what was, is and could be. That is, reassurance that they could navigate their way through the darkness. Not a gush of inspirational anythings. That might be the way overall to size up where most humans are around much of the world. CNBC published about a woman who overcomes a rare disease to be able to run the Boston Marathon. So? Instead of being inspired, aren't we annoyed that the media is out of touch. In overwhelm about financial uncertainty most don't welcome that sort of content. No emotional/spiritual uplift here. How can anyone sleep when bills are due? The card that keeps coming up is the Nine of Wands. Symbolized are confusion, lack of direction, loss of confidence. Isn't the b...

  Floating inches, maybe feet off the ground capitalism planted us on. That's "groundlessness." Sometimes it's achieved during deep mediation, as tonight at the Buddhist temple. Or, just in desperation amid so much uncertainty. And that's the magical state of being open to a fresh look at the overwhelm. There's a letting go. In the tarot that's symbolized by The Chariot card. But that's not what "they" hammered into us. We were supposed to keep our feet on the ground. Always have a strategy. Push. Stay with it. Be in charge.  And the majority of suffering human beings coming to me for a tarot reading have been caught up chasing after jobs which no longer exist. Embedded in relationships which they've long ago outgrown. Spending money on a lifestyle which brings stress, not joy. Another way of understanding groundlessness is the "sacred pause."  Caught in a situation which we can't control or not being able to get a handle o...

Prayers Spells Potions Icons. All are for "protection." But those in the loop rarely explain that the entity we humans most need protection from is our very selves. Usually that reality manifests itself after we have been through the wringer. Then, we have those Ah-Ha moments. We unleashed our own destruction. Founders of Alcoholics Anonymous Bill W. and Dr. Bob, who certainly had been through the wringer, recognized how dangerous they were. Part of their mission was to protect the fledging organization from their own foibles. For example, they could have made the simple program complex. They could have imposed control on what was structured to be peer-to-peer healing. In tarot readings I attempt to open the suffering to discern their part in creating, nurturing and escalating the pain. Throughout civilization the great thinkers have steered us to recognize our self-destructive default. They include authors of the Old Testament of the Bible, William Shakespeare, Sigmund Freud...