The Dirty Little Secret about Support Groups: And, Why We Stop Going
"Those five months going to XYZ support group lifted my clinical depression." That's what a client for a tarot reading told me. The World Card had come up, considered by some to be the best card in the deck. But what drove that improvement was not what is usually given as a benefit of support groups. What the client got out of it was weekly evidence that they had a lot more going for them than most of the other members. For example, despite some reversals in their investments and the loss of a few accounts, they were not in debt. Or homeless. Or on the verge of losing their home. Obviously, what was going on was the adage: Count your blessings. Eventually the power of the attitude of gratitude also woke them up to the realization that they could be doing lots more with their time than "listening to all those sad stories." They quit the group. Of course, this whole mindset has been kept under wraps. The code of the support group is peer interaction. We are all...