Healing Relationships: If You Spot It, You Got It

 


Relationships, ranging from romantic to professional, dominate Tarot reading sessions. 

Most of human beings in upheaval about the connections in their lives usually learn this fundamental: If you can spot it - and become obsessive about it - you probably got it. That is, you are experiencing a part of yourself that you don't like. Only perhaps an exaggerated version of it.

The classic example is resentment about the micromanaging superior or the advice-giving intimate partner. Odds are that you yourself tend to be overbearing. The way to heal the relationship is to focus on reducing this trait in yourself. First own it, then figure out how to let it go. Usually it's embedded deep into a comfort zone. If you are not dishing out mandates you don't feel whole.

Recovery programs for addictions, be it codependency, food or alcohol, frequently hammer this fundamental of If You Spot It, You Got It. For instance, the 10th Step in AA's 12 Steps directs you to yourself if you are unhinged by another's behavior. 

Leaders who can motivate others tend to be introspective. That is, beyond the surface extroverted persona, they know themselves, gifts and shadow sides and how to manage all that.

They include Berkshire Hathaway's Warren Buffett/Charlie Munger, spiritual guide on redemption John Tarantino, Fox CEO Suzanne Scott and Paul Weiss chair Brad Karp. In contrast, it is useful to follow Disney's return CEO Bob Iger. Did the previous success of his charm offensive prevent him from doing his "inner work?" 

The demand for "authenticity" really comes down to self-knowledge. Those with it tend to have an extraordinary capacity for changing. They don't get caught in a time warp. That hardens into a platform to pile on criticisms of others. 

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