Love Is about Behavior, Not Feeling

America is still hung over in the excess attention paid to feeling that the Counterculture unleashed. We boomers were socialized that nothing else mattered except how we felt. Of course, that seeped into relationships. And talk of "love" was everywhere. And that talk was all about feeling.

Yet, love is embedded in action. It's the behavior which discloses the quality of the attempted union. 




The genius of The Lovers card in the Tarot is that it highlights the disconnect between the two focused on partnering. From the moment the umbilical cord is cut human beings are a separate entity - and spend a life attempting to restore that connection with another human being. 

Of course, never will there be the total oneness of what was in the womb. But a deep bonding can be created and sustained through how we treat the "other." Yes, it's through our actions. 

Yet, in Tarot sessions there is too often a compulsion to talk about feelings. I have to gently push to move the exploration of the quality of the relationship to how the "other" is treating you. I even introduce the cliche: Love is a verb.

Takeaway: Examine how you are treated, not what you two say about your feelings.

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