Why You Assume You Have to Get "Permission" to Make a Decision: Three Steps to Becoming The Chief Decider

 For we humans making decisions is tough. No surprise then, there are 10 cards in the Tarot directly related to decision-making. They are:

Two of Wands

Judgement

Justice

Queen of Swords

Chariot

Two of Swords

Seven of Cups

Hanged Man

Emperor

For me as a Tarot reader the card with the most helpful message is that delivered by the Queen of Swords. She personalifies the ability and the determination to cut through the noise (what "they" are all pontificating) and listen to one's own intuition. Not that commonsense, research, strategy, experience and more are ignored. The seminal point here is trust in yourself. 

Unfortunately, currently that's in short supply, that is, appointing yourself as The Chief Decider. Too often clients come to me for a Tarot reading in order to "get permission" to make X or Y decision. There is no core of self-confidence that they are in charge of their lives. Sure, seek out guidance but own the decision-making process. After all, you are the one who will live with it.

Why is there such a disconnect with oneself? I have a theory: The rewards of life - careers, relationships and even spiritual goodies - usually are associated with obedience. Follow the rules as specified and things will go along just fine. In addition, too much of our schooling involves producing the "right answer." Developing a sense of a self frequently becomes impossible. Instead those "oughts" own us. And we are frozen with fear about making a mistake. 

In order to take responsibility for decisions, the first step is self-acceptance. As American Buddhist nun Pema Chodron teaches: Start where you are. That includes all the flaws, all the mistakes, all the missed opportunities to be human. Actually, Chodron put that wisdom in book form in 2005. That's "Start Where You Are: How to Accept Yourself and Others." The most successful professionals I have encountered are totally comfortable with who they are. They range from former US President Bill Clinton to Paul Weiss law firm Chair Brad Karp to Cognitive Behavioral Therapist Amy Karnilowicz. 

The next step is to absorb the confusion that should go along with decision-making. For a bit you will be out of your traditional comfort zones.

The third step is to be willing to be wrong. As a client joyfully reported back to me: "What a mistake. But it was mine." That was the first time he had taken on the role of The Chief Decider.

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