Nine of Wands in the Tarot - Your Boundaries May Be Too Porous

 "... a porous [boundary] ... keeps us incessantly scanning the horizon for incoming threats ... what a toll that can take on one's life force, making little else possible." -  "Tarot for Change," by Jessica Dore, Penguin Life, 2021.

So, how do you know your boundaries are porous? As Dore explains, the red flags are hardening resentment about saying "yes" too often and/or guilt after saying "no." Riding such an emotional roller-coaster is exhausting. It also distracts you from going after what you want.

Porous boundaries are especially common in gregarious societies such as America where we are socialized to be agreeable and accommodating. 

The first step out of this bad habit is to assess interactions in your professional and personal lives through the Return on Investment metric. That is, you ask yourself what is in it for you? In itself that will insert a pause in the compulsion to deliver a fast "Oh, Sure." 

The next is to conduct an inventory check on existing relationships. Which ones can be reset? And how much energy will have to plowed into that? Is that worth it? And, which have to be left behind? 

As you decouple from this syndrome you will experience a lot more energy. 

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