Self-Blame: The American Epidemic

 I call it the Curse of Capitalism. That economic system is based on individualism. You are responsible for your success and you and only you are accountable for your failures. That, I am convinced, is the platform for the epidemic of self-blame in professional life.

In all fields we learn the most from our clients. In doing Tarot readings what emerges from my clients' unconscious (and maybe the collective unconscious of the United States) is intense regret. No surprise, in one-card pulls what pops up too often is the Five of Cups. In the book "Kitchen Tarot," Melissa Cynova sums up that card as the "Maybe" one: If I had done this then that wouldn't have happened. 

Lots is wrong with that thought process and we are our thoughts.

To begin with, regret is nothing but a fantasy of what might have played out. It has no ccorrelation or cause-effect with reality. You don't know how your career would have turned out had you majored in business instead of politcal science. Would you have made it to senior management instead of hovering around the middle? Or if you took that job with Apple instead of IBM and then had been laid off in the early 90s. Since you didn't have a career in Apple you don't know how you would have done.

Next, preocccupation with the past distracts us from the present. Success happens in the now. Not in yesterday.

And, three, we can come across as "losers" if we present ourselves as filled with regret. No one wants to hear it. And that regret is no secret. The High Priestess card enlightens us that there are no secrets. We release that information in everything from our body language to our self-defeating behavior.

Takeakay: There are no do-overs for the past.

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