"Diversity of Thought" - That's So Confusing



 "Am I right?"

That's what a client for a tarot reading pleaded to know. They were experiencing a relationship meltdown and needed feedback if balking about the partner's long hours at the gym was a legit grip.

Well, as we honor diversity of thought - that is that myriad points of view have merit - I had to back up and say: There's no absolute right or wrong. 

With that out of the way, I had to give them confidence to assert their point of view about what should take place and not take place in an intimate relationship. In this context the point of view was that the spouse:

Should be spending more time with the family, not chasing extreme fitness in middle age.

Needed to add to the household income by picking up gigs in addition to the full-time job.

Could be taking online courses to upskill.

Of course, the husband probably had another point of view. But since I wasn't conducting a marriage counseling session he wasn't there to present it.

Rubber meets the road on this one and most diversity-of-thought situations, though, when it comes to behavior. The analogy is the workplace. It's common for employees to have lots of thoughts about how the tasks should get done. But they wouldn't be able to hold that job long if their behavior didn't conform to the process mandates.

The same in relationships. Think what you want. And your thinking may be out of the norm because you're from another culture or had three nightmare intimate relationships. However, your behavior will have to be in the zone of what has been negotiated. Sure, doing those negotiations is tough. That's why they are best entered before a serious commitment. A typical one is: Should we have children?

The goal is: Finding common ground. Example: We want the best for our children. That's the mutual expectation. Therefore, everything else should align with that. Excess time in a fitness routine is out of alignment. 

Takeaway: One client, retired military, put it this way: "The Marines didn't give a rat's ass what I thought. It only factored in my behavior. I got plenty of promotions." 

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