YouandTheTarot

  With so much disruption so many of us are losing so much. Jobs. Career paths ripped up by generative AI. Relationships we're too exhausted to maintain. Savings. Sense of belonging. And more. Therefore, it's expected that the movie Thunderbolts should be a blockbuster at the box office. Also in ratings. Rotten Tomatoes gave it 89. The plot revolves around a group of anti-social losers who are tormented by shame over their earlier behavior. That ranges from the inattentive father who winds up divorced to the former meth addict. Self-hate dominates. It's described as being "in one room." Brilliant symbolism. Therapists should use it in sessions. I'll introduce the metaphor in tarot readings and my faith-based coaching.  The crisis of needing to band together to save their lives from the machinations of the evil director of the CIA forces them to transcend that emotional set. As Yelena Belova tutors they discover that 1) They can cope with life and 2) How to do ...

  "I'm getting all this advice I didn't ask for. And I don't want. Those blabbermouths don't know a thing about business." That's what a client for a tarot reading complained. This entrepreneur was toying with setting up another enterprise. This one in residential cleaning.  His tragic error? In his uncertainty, he was "thinking out loud." Be it in the gym working out or in the stands watching his daughter's game he was playing out various approaches for how to position and package such as new venture. I was compassionate about how anxiety sets loose too much talk. But I was also candid: "You put it out there. You open yourself for unsolicited feedback. That's the way it is." For structured input for those who are in the know, this self-employed man could have posted questions about his idea on professional anonymous networks Reddit and Fishbowl. He would have received a broad range of caring responses. That's free. Also fre...

Passion. Supposedly that's what those hiring want to see and, once on the job, what managers monitor. And too many in the workforce wind up burning out, making serious errors due to such blinding intensity and/or losing the respect of leadership because of being such blatant suck-ups.  The reality, as emerges in this thread on Reddit Jobs , is that those who don't take it all that seriously usually have the edge in professional life. The psychological term for that is "detachment." Some religions describe it as a state of being of "wearing the world like a loose garment." The poster describes himself as devoid of ambition in management consulting. In a primarily remote consulting position they don't scurry into the office for face time and compulsively attend those tedious company social events. Yet, they have continually received positive performance reviews and promotions. One response nails it: " ... maybe that’s why you’re actually excelling at ...

  If Bill Belichick came to me for a tarot reading I have a hunch one card that would be pulled is the Eight of Cups. That's the Walking Away card.  In the distance, if the walker-away looks up from the pain of letting go what had been, is a mountain representing new opportunity.  In the relationship with the significantly younger Jordan Hudson  Belichick is looking mighty foolish . The tipping point had been the CBS interview. Obviously Hudson is what the coach great has to walk away from. That entails accepting what aging does to us and then going on from there.  The latest illusions about aging include: You don't look your age. So what. The age bias still erodes much. Your energy isn't what it had been. In an interview even Energizer Bunny head of law firm Paul Weiss Brad Karp, in his 60s, conceded to sometimes being exhausted.  Warren Buffett is still at it in his 90s and Martha Stewart in her 80s. So what. They have lots of resources to help them stay ...

  As is well-known, many tarot readings focus on relationships. Sure, there are the romantic kind. But there also are the close friendships and even the interactions with co-workers and neighbors. Research at the end of the 1990s in Italy has proved out that we humans are social. That is based on mirror neurons . Those elicit empathy or our ability to loop into the feelings of other humans. Yes, we affect each other cell by cell. That explains the phenomenon of the nurses on the same ward all getting pregnant around the same time, living with an obese person can "make us" fat and moods are contagious. It's posited that damage to the mirror neurons can be the cause of conditions such as autism which impair social functioning. However, though we are social beings we don't have to bet the ranch on relationships. They're an important part of life. But only a part.  What so many observers of early American society, such as novelist Henry James, noted is that this new l...

In her brief life - dying at age 41 - Virginia Giuffre opened the door for other alleged victims of sexual abuse to stand up for themselves.  In her death, a suicide, she might also have been unique in her activism. That is, if we speculate about some kinds of inner torment that might be too hard for some to bear. What we know is that even before Giuffre had been an alleged Epstein sexual victim she had been one at the hands of a family friend. She wound up on the street.  The 2015 film "Forever" features that meme of unbearable trauma and loss. One father loses his small daughter to a wave at the beach. Another man endured sexual abuse by his father and then there was the trauma of his brother murdering both the father and the mother who allowed it.  They find refuge in a commune operated by a former psychiatrist and his wife. There they would search for temporary harmony and purpose. Then would be a collective suicide.  There is no glorification about that as a ...